YOUR ONE BEST THING
By Sherry Surratt
It’s that time of year. The stale leftover cookies are in the trash and I’m eyeing the tree, wishing
it would pack up and walk itself away. I’m ready to make a clean sweep of the holidays. Christmas
is over. This means a brand new year ahead and I’m thinking about how my family can make the most
of it. Should we set new goals, launch new habits? Rework our schedule and routine? Come up
with a five-year family growth plan?
I have a headache.
I love the idea of setting new family goals, but I live with me. I’m all for committing a lengthy list of
goals and objectives to paper, but then my actions don’t follow. Before January is finished I don’t
even remember what I wrote.
Anybody with me?
Here’s what I’ve learned: More doesn’t always mean better.
I’m tired of long lists with no follow- through (and the shame that comes with it) so here’s where
I am. I’m asking myself this question:
What’s the one best thing I can do to help my family
better connect this year?
But wait, how much can you really accomplish by just focusing on one thing? Actually, research
tells us focusing on one thing at a time can move you farther faster than focusing on many.
And the power of the one thing isn’t in its bigness but rather in its repetition. When
it comes to connecting with the hearts of your family, the small things you do every day matter
more than the big things you do occasionally. This year for us, it’s asking an intentional question,
at one meal a day—a question like:
Where did you see God at work today?
It’s a simple question that I can remember and I’m committing to asking it with open hands,
without interruption but with full attention. And it’s okay if the answers don’t go to deep places
every time. Heart connection happens with full presence of listening and intentional repetition.
This year instead of a list of goals, I’m going for impact through simplicity. Our one best thing.
So think about this. How can you make your one thing so easy and likely that you’ll repeat it?
Think about the moments that already present themselves in a rhythm and get in step with it.
Maybe it’s the drive to school or right before bedtime or over a morning bowl of cereal, you
know, the stuff that happens every single day.
What’s the one best thing your family will do this year?
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