FOUR QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF BEFORE TALKING TO YOUR KIDS ABOUT RACISM
By Parent Cue
As parents, we have an incredible opportunity to promote racial reconciliation through the
influence we have on our kids—who are watching, listening, and taking it all in. As you think about
how to talk to your kids about the realities of racism, we encourage you to ask yourself a
1. What are your feelings about the issue?
In order to have honest conversations with our kids, we need to be honest with ourselves. Check
your heart and your thoughts. Be sure to take a step back and identify how you might need to
change in your prejudices and in your interactions with others. Reflect on what it really means to
love those whom God loves, and unrelentingly pursue forgiveness and reconciliation.
2. Do you celebrate diversity?
Some parents may be tempted to try to teach their kids to be blind to color, to shy away
from acknowledging differences or just ignore them altogether. But the truth is that we are all
very different in the way God made us—in our skin color, in our genetic makeup, and in our
culture. And that’s something to be celebrated, not ignored. Do you model the belief with your
words and actions that God made each of us unique and beautiful even in our differences? Do
you demonstrate respect towards those you disagree with? How diverse is your circle of friends
and the people you associate with? How can you widen that circle for your family?
3. Are you talking about racism?
Racism is a difficult and sensitive topic, but it does exist, often in the form of subtle comments
and prejudice, but sometimes it’s outright hatred and violence. Not talking about it doesn’t make it
go away. Discover the truth from various outlets and seek to understand other perspectives.
When you find the right words that honestly and respectfully express how you think and feel,
choose your words carefully. Then talk to your kids so you can equip them with the values and
the words they will need to respect, celebrate, and stand up for those who are being
4. Are you focused on love?
It’s important to talk to your kids about how your family can respond to racism in a positive way.
As you navigate these important conversations, focus on what matters most: LOVE. Put love
into action, and rest in the hope that is found there.
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