By Mike Tiemann
One of the things I admire the most about kids is the way they live in the moment. They don’t have
to be responsible for things like retirement plans, coordinating the calendar, or figuring out what’s
for dinner. That’s one of the things I miss most about childhood. Kids don’t have control of
any of those things. They have no choice but to trust. They’re completely dependent on you
for all those “adult things.” Of course, those days of blind trust don’t last forever.
As kids grow and mature into adults, they move from dependence to independence—from
reactivity to responsibility. When we grow up we have to take ownership. We feel like we have
to take control...and that can make it a lot harder to trust. We don’t like it when life surprises us
and takes us out of the driver’s seat. But it’s not a question of if we’ll get kicked out from time to
time; it’s a question of when. Those are the moments when it’s most important for us to
trust—for ourselves, and for our kids who are watching. We have full ownership of our actions, but at
the same time, we don’t have to abandon the innocent trust that came so easily during childhood.
We might not see an easy solution to the problem. But even in the midst of that tension, we
can choose to open our hands and say, “I don’t know what to do. But God, I trust You.” It’s
nice when trust leads to a happy ending. I like it when I can show my kids that everything works
out the way I hoped it would—because then I can easily point to God’s faithfulness along the
way. It’s much harder to trust when things don’t turn out the way I hoped, but even then, it’s
still important that I trust. But I think the decision to trust is the teachable moment . . . not
When I feel out of control, I can still choose to trust God and believe that my life is in His hands.
I don’t have towait until everything is fixed; I can behonest with my kids and let them see
the emotions that I’m struggling with along the way. Our kids don’t have a lot of control in
their lives—yet. But maybe we can model for them what it looks like to trust, regardless
of the outcome. When they grow up, they won’t forget it.
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